Workplace Mannerisms

It takes just 1 person to create a web of lies for their own personal benefit and to destroy the bonds you have formed within your team. The word bully pops to mind but then you could argue that the person is just a weak sorry excuse of a human being who isn’t worth any moment of your time.

But here I am. Thinking about it. Mentally battling it out. But why am I?

In the span of 2 months I have identified one place of work where the work place mannerisms of the colleagues resembles something close to a bunch of dogs. Now you may think I am being harsh. The fact of the matter is that every little issue is blown up out of proportion. And who is the centre of all of this. One person. The person I have named dinosaur. I made the mistake of complaining to management about something. Next thing I know this dinosaur is wounded terribly and I am the vicious villian who has delivered the blow.

Now your probably sat here thinking. What the hell is this idiot rambling on about such a ludacris issue for? There is always a moral to my rants.

To all of you people out there who have been subjected to workplace bullying just because you spoke up or just because your different. Believe me these dinosaurs are not worth you time and just focus on the task on hand. Because the law of attraction states any good and positive energy from the brain will radiate out into your life and success is the biggest destroyer of dinosaurs.

Well its currently 1:13am right now and with this off my chest I can fall asleep much more easily because dinosaurs are f*****g t**ts and have the brain capacity of a pea. And on that note I am going to hit the hay…

Just before I go. If you would like us to discuss any topics then please feel free to email us on facelessbanter@gmail.com

Goodnight Dinosaur Crushers!!! ❤

Negativity

I have to be honest with you guys. I have been really low for the past couple of days and I thought maybe it would be worth writing a blog post about what’s on my mind? So here goes nothing.

There comes a time in life where you no longer are in the “immature teen” state of mind. This may be at 19, 20, 21…who knows. My point is why do people act so immature.

If your laughing at me, the jokes on you b****, because you ain’t going anywhere fast. People who laugh at you have nothing better to do with their lives. All they care about is what others are doing and not what’s going on in their lives. Ultimately they spend too much time concentrating on where their victims are going in life and lose direction of their own. Their loss not yours. The day they come to realise how much time they lost thinking about you, is the day you make it.

Essentially what I’ve been trying to do is to make myself understand why they are laughing at me? But it suddenly occured to me about 10 minutes ago that who gives a f***? People like that get nowhere in life.

Faceless Banter does what it says on the tin. I’m banting a rant and I feel hella better about it.😤😰😧

Before I leave you, I have had an idea. Essentially I love to help people, it’s part of my day job and it makes me feel happy knowing that I helped a person. (Get to the point woman!) So I was thinking that if anyone of you guys would like to send in a question to our email account, we would be more than happy to provide you with our opinion about it on here, anonymously of course. Our email address is facelessbanter@gmail.com.

I wish you all a lovely day and stay smiling because you can.

Take Care 😊

A short one…

Hello, I hope you’re doing well today. If not, go give someone you love a hug because nothing makes you more happy than putting a smile on another persons face.

Now the title of this blog post really does mean what it says. It is going to be a short one unfortunately as I have a life-changing exam in 19 days and writing a blog post is something I just have to do right this minute. 😉😄

Bullying. I know I write several blog posts about bullying, but I have been feeling a little low so blogging is my way of speaking out about it.

I was bullied for 6 years.

And today of all days when I should be revising I start thinking about what used to happen to me.

It is not a nice feeling at all. The jeers, the laughs, the paper balls to my head. Yes I have been there. 😔

I hate bullying with a passion and it makes me so angry that idiots can get away with such things. They are not human. Because if they were they would not have done what they did to me. There were several times where suicide became an option in my eyes. There was no-where else to go. I was alone.

My relationship with God was re-established because I was alone. God was my saviour. I used to cry myself to sleep at night. I had only God to talk to. Slowly but surely I rose above everything with these two beliefs. Everything happens for a reason and God is the best of planners.

My mental battle between life and death was forgotten because God became my purpose in life. Now your probably sat there thinking, how can God affect someone so much. I was alone. I had no-one else. I would read statuses online everyday on my Facebook page about hardships and tests. I was educating myself on the wonders of the past. I was seeing changes in my life that only God could instill. For the first time in 6 years I was seeing and feeling happiness.

I know this was meant to be a short one. Well when I let my emotions out there is no stopping me.

On a final note I would like to say that whatever your going through there is a reason for it and it will end. Keep going and keep fighting. Do it for yourself and your loved ones. Make yourself and them happy. Remember suicide only passes on the pain to another.

Until next time.

P.S. if you need someone to talk to anonymously then please do not hesitate to message us at facelessbanter@gmail.com. Thank you and take care. 😊

Uncertainty….

 

Most nights I stay awake thinking whether the choices I have made in life were right and whether the current route I am pursuing is correct for me, is this what I am meant to be doing or have I got it totally wrong. Each time I remain totally uncertain, perhaps it’s my nature to be so uncertain but I so wish I was not like this. I think, think and think more and this to be honest achieves nothing for me. Maybe reading this, this is something  you can relate to. Though I have no answer for you, on how to rectify this what I can say is that sometimes you just have to trust the journey and now that you’re destined path will open. This however, is easier than done. For me, I rely on God to get me through and each time I feel overwhelmed by my journey I reflect on this quote:

“As I look back on my life, I realize that every time I thought I was being rejected from something good; I was actually being re-directed to something better. You must convince your heart that whatever God has decreed is most appropriate and most beneficial for you.”

-Imam Ghazali

Now I’m aware that everyone does not have faith in God and that’s why if you do have worries and uncertainty in your heart you must find an alternative that can help you and almost soothe your heart in times of uncertainty and difficulty. Truth be told you’ve probably heard this a million times, but worrying is really pointless but humans have an intrinsic trait to obsesses and ponder over negative thoughts and think of the worst possible scenarios that may occur, now I am also guilty of this. For this, you have to change your thought pattern, if you concentrate on a positive thoughts believe me your life will improve endlessly. I truly hope that for someone, somewhere out there this post has helped you……

Serenity

Stroll

Have you ever wanted to just drop everything and run? Have you ever wanted to travel around the world without a worry in sight? Have you ever just wanted peace?

I’m guessing YES because if your answer is no then your life is way too easy and be grateful because not many are blessed with such a thing. Now your probably wondering where this post is going.

Let me tell you a story.

It was a beautiful sunny morning and I had just landed in Birmingham for an exam at the sweet time of 7:30am. (Those bleeding exams 😦 ) There was literally no-one around probably because they were still sleeping or were still at home like normal people. There are some really fancy-schmancy buildings along my walk towards the university. I was literally strolling along the pavement with the sun burning me and the wind blowing around me and I have to say that I have never felt more at peace then I did then. It was in that moment that I realised that one day i was going to make it. Exams are depressing as f***and know I sit here near the biggest exam of my life 3 years on and I know it’s going to be okay. That stroll I had literally made me drop most of my worries and changed my perspective of my future. I remember thinking “I am going to make it.”

Referring back to the start of this blog post where I asked a few rhetorical questions. They become relevant at this point of the post. You can do all of those things and have all of those if you work hard now. My parents bang on about this all the time and for the last 18 years I have finally realised what they now mean. I am closer to my goal than I have ever been, I have made it. Through bullying, pain, suicidal thoughts feeling like it’s not worth it, I AM HERE!!!!

That stroll changed my life!

I hope I have inspired you a little and I hope you have a lovely day. Until next time 🙂

Can’t take it anymore…

As I lie here and you read on, the hope instilled in my soul dwindles even more. The days keep passing by but the same s**t just keeps on happening.

Is it worth it? Shall I give up? Torn between life and death. A decision I need to make.

The laughs, the jeers. Is it me or is it them? Paranoia becomes my best friend. I sit in an emotional mess everyday. Do I really want to go on? 2 years, 3 years..how many more can I take?

I see no light and I hear evil. Do I want to be a part of this corruption anymore?

Save me or kill me. It is in your hands.

This may sound really confusing to most of you guys. However, read deeper and in between the lines. Bullying and suicide is an issue that is growing uncontrablly everyday and it is something dear to my heart. I speak from experience and I know how it feels. Keep going is my advice to you. Karma’s a bitch and it’s going to bite their ar**s soon! Count on it. Make something of youself. Be big. Make them jealous…

Until next time.

Bullying

The echoing laughs, the pointing fingers. The sneers, the unnecessary smirks. To say I was happy was a lie that fell from my lips too easily. It was as if I was alone. Trying to find my way out of this nightmare, which would never end. Everyday becomes a chore. Repeatedly mocking me until I can take no more.

I lie here with my wounds wide open, praying for a release from this cycle of depression. Help me, save me, I can’t let this go on. I sit here with these words. I am alone, I have no-one so why is life worth living. There is no-one to help me now, so what do I do. Is it the end? 

STOP!

Breathe. Just let it out. Cry. Shout. Ain’t nobody going to hurt you. You are not alone. I was in your shoes once. I know how it feels to be degraded and bullied by mindless imbeciles. Just remember, when your successful, they will remember you and you will be their boss. Ain’t that the biggest dose of karma ever.

Don’t let anyone hurt you. Get stronger and be stronger. Fufill your dreams and be who you want to be. Use the pain as your motivation to become successful. Words mean nothing. No-one can get to you unless you let them.

Smile. I am.

9-5 Grind…..Sometimes it’s now or never.

Do you ever feel that 9-5 is just not for you, I have many times. You get up in the morning, shower, have breakfast, get changed and set out to work. You reach work, you do the same things day in day out….You go home, undress, shower, eat, relax and sleep. There just is no element of fun to your life any more. The routine you once dreamed of has now become lethal. You feel like life has been drained out of you, every Sunday you think of your week ahead and you realise it’s the same thing, every day. How can you spend your entire life doing this, not working towards your own goals and spending your life working for someone else’s dreams. Believe it or not, this use to be me, I spent pretty much my life working for someone else’s dream without pursuing my own. That’s why I decided I needed to become more adventurous, more courageous, more gutsy. Now more than ever, I needed to let go of everything that was holding me back and pursue my dreams. I needed to run with the ideas I had, I needed to get started now or it would never happen and most of all I needed to believe that I can do it.

That’s how you need to think, pursue your dream, make it happen because before you know it you would have spent 10 or more years in a job you didn’t really enjoy, that’s 10 years too late, go for it now!

Can’t let go…..Oh yes you can!

One of the best feelings in the world is moving on and letting go of someone that is wrong for you. Initially, making this step will be the hardest thing you have ever done, it will feel like almost someone is asking you to give away a part of your heart. You may know deep down in your heart that you have to let go, but its often hope that keeps you hanging on. This type of hope confuses your soul the most, you feel if you just try a little harder you can rectify the situation, truth is you can’t. The longer you stay, is the more you’ll destroy your own self worth. Constantly questioning what more you can do, and why your not good enough. Truth is a person can only meet you on the level they see their own selves at. Remember, their ability to not see your worth is more a reflection of their own character rather then yourself.

Now I can sit here and write in depth about letting go of toxic people  but ultimately it boils down to one thing YOU! You have to realise that this person is negative in your life. Believe me, self realisation counts for a damn lot. Now you may ask, how do I actually get over a person, its easier said than done. Well my answer to this question is that you have to change your thought’s about them. What in effect I am saying is that you have to change what you attach their identity too. So before, you may attach their identity to someone who you love, care for and someone who brings you happiness etc. Now you have to change this identity to someone who couldn’t give you that level of consistency, attention and  absolutely destroyed your self worth. This process doesn’t happen over night, it may take many months even years at time, depending on the type of person you are. But you have to exercise self discipline, and by that I mean even when you miss this person you have to be strong enough not to go back.

Remember never go back to what broke you!

 

 

 

Pain

That four-lettered word that holds a world of emotions and is thrown carelessly at unsuspecting souls repeatedly. Battered and bruised, and still they don’t stop. The laughs, the jeers, the fists, the kicks. Why us?

Waking everyday from a dreamless dream, to a terrifying nightmare, wishing we could close our eyes and never be awake again.

Depression looms, suicide nears, what do we do? Can anyone help us?

Tears are only our outsource of pain. Drop by drop, we fall against our victors. This cannot continue.

Acceptance and belief are the next step to change.

More words that holds the strength of the world upon their shoulders. Acceptance with belief, a combination, formidable even against the strongest. They can no longer hurt us. Who do they think they are. We will be better. We will be stronger. We will fight for us.

Sorrow and Success follow, two aspects of our lives, we can’t seem to have one without the other. Trust me, it will be ok. Remember the pain and build upon it.

No-one can hurt us no more. We will fight and we will win! The bully will fall and we will rise above them, united!

And it is that rise which will cause the pain the pain to be gone…

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Just something to think about.

Until next time.