Can’t let go…..Oh yes you can!

One of the best feelings in the world is moving on and letting go of someone that is wrong for you. Initially, making this step will be the hardest thing you have ever done, it will feel like almost someone is asking you to give away a part of your heart. You may know deep down in your heart that you have to let go, but its often hope that keeps you hanging on. This type of hope confuses your soul the most, you feel if you just try a little harder you can rectify the situation, truth is you can’t. The longer you stay, is the more you’ll destroy your own self worth. Constantly questioning what more you can do, and why your not good enough. Truth is a person can only meet you on the level they see their own selves at. Remember, their ability to not see your worth is more a reflection of their own character rather then yourself.

Now I can sit here and write in depth about letting go of toxic people  but ultimately it boils down to one thing YOU! You have to realise that this person is negative in your life. Believe me, self realisation counts for a damn lot. Now you may ask, how do I actually get over a person, its easier said than done. Well my answer to this question is that you have to change your thought’s about them. What in effect I am saying is that you have to change what you attach their identity too. So before, you may attach their identity to someone who you love, care for and someone who brings you happiness etc. Now you have to change this identity to someone who couldn’t give you that level of consistency, attention and  absolutely destroyed your self worth. This process doesn’t happen over night, it may take many months even years at time, depending on the type of person you are. But you have to exercise self discipline, and by that I mean even when you miss this person you have to be strong enough not to go back.

Remember never go back to what broke you!

 

 

 

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