Negativity

I have to be honest with you guys. I have been really low for the past couple of days and I thought maybe it would be worth writing a blog post about what’s on my mind? So here goes nothing.

There comes a time in life where you no longer are in the “immature teen” state of mind. This may be at 19, 20, 21…who knows. My point is why do people act so immature.

If your laughing at me, the jokes on you b****, because you ain’t going anywhere fast. People who laugh at you have nothing better to do with their lives. All they care about is what others are doing and not what’s going on in their lives. Ultimately they spend too much time concentrating on where their victims are going in life and lose direction of their own. Their loss not yours. The day they come to realise how much time they lost thinking about you, is the day you make it.

Essentially what I’ve been trying to do is to make myself understand why they are laughing at me? But it suddenly occured to me about 10 minutes ago that who gives a f***? People like that get nowhere in life.

Faceless Banter does what it says on the tin. I’m banting a rant and I feel hella better about it.😤😰😧

Before I leave you, I have had an idea. Essentially I love to help people, it’s part of my day job and it makes me feel happy knowing that I helped a person. (Get to the point woman!) So I was thinking that if anyone of you guys would like to send in a question to our email account, we would be more than happy to provide you with our opinion about it on here, anonymously of course. Our email address is facelessbanter@gmail.com.

I wish you all a lovely day and stay smiling because you can.

Take Care 😊

A short one…

Hello, I hope you’re doing well today. If not, go give someone you love a hug because nothing makes you more happy than putting a smile on another persons face.

Now the title of this blog post really does mean what it says. It is going to be a short one unfortunately as I have a life-changing exam in 19 days and writing a blog post is something I just have to do right this minute. 😉😄

Bullying. I know I write several blog posts about bullying, but I have been feeling a little low so blogging is my way of speaking out about it.

I was bullied for 6 years.

And today of all days when I should be revising I start thinking about what used to happen to me.

It is not a nice feeling at all. The jeers, the laughs, the paper balls to my head. Yes I have been there. 😔

I hate bullying with a passion and it makes me so angry that idiots can get away with such things. They are not human. Because if they were they would not have done what they did to me. There were several times where suicide became an option in my eyes. There was no-where else to go. I was alone.

My relationship with God was re-established because I was alone. God was my saviour. I used to cry myself to sleep at night. I had only God to talk to. Slowly but surely I rose above everything with these two beliefs. Everything happens for a reason and God is the best of planners.

My mental battle between life and death was forgotten because God became my purpose in life. Now your probably sat there thinking, how can God affect someone so much. I was alone. I had no-one else. I would read statuses online everyday on my Facebook page about hardships and tests. I was educating myself on the wonders of the past. I was seeing changes in my life that only God could instill. For the first time in 6 years I was seeing and feeling happiness.

I know this was meant to be a short one. Well when I let my emotions out there is no stopping me.

On a final note I would like to say that whatever your going through there is a reason for it and it will end. Keep going and keep fighting. Do it for yourself and your loved ones. Make yourself and them happy. Remember suicide only passes on the pain to another.

Until next time.

P.S. if you need someone to talk to anonymously then please do not hesitate to message us at facelessbanter@gmail.com. Thank you and take care. 😊

Uncertainty….

 

Most nights I stay awake thinking whether the choices I have made in life were right and whether the current route I am pursuing is correct for me, is this what I am meant to be doing or have I got it totally wrong. Each time I remain totally uncertain, perhaps it’s my nature to be so uncertain but I so wish I was not like this. I think, think and think more and this to be honest achieves nothing for me. Maybe reading this, this is something  you can relate to. Though I have no answer for you, on how to rectify this what I can say is that sometimes you just have to trust the journey and now that you’re destined path will open. This however, is easier than done. For me, I rely on God to get me through and each time I feel overwhelmed by my journey I reflect on this quote:

“As I look back on my life, I realize that every time I thought I was being rejected from something good; I was actually being re-directed to something better. You must convince your heart that whatever God has decreed is most appropriate and most beneficial for you.”

-Imam Ghazali

Now I’m aware that everyone does not have faith in God and that’s why if you do have worries and uncertainty in your heart you must find an alternative that can help you and almost soothe your heart in times of uncertainty and difficulty. Truth be told you’ve probably heard this a million times, but worrying is really pointless but humans have an intrinsic trait to obsesses and ponder over negative thoughts and think of the worst possible scenarios that may occur, now I am also guilty of this. For this, you have to change your thought pattern, if you concentrate on a positive thoughts believe me your life will improve endlessly. I truly hope that for someone, somewhere out there this post has helped you……

Serenity

Stroll

Have you ever wanted to just drop everything and run? Have you ever wanted to travel around the world without a worry in sight? Have you ever just wanted peace?

I’m guessing YES because if your answer is no then your life is way too easy and be grateful because not many are blessed with such a thing. Now your probably wondering where this post is going.

Let me tell you a story.

It was a beautiful sunny morning and I had just landed in Birmingham for an exam at the sweet time of 7:30am. (Those bleeding exams 😦 ) There was literally no-one around probably because they were still sleeping or were still at home like normal people. There are some really fancy-schmancy buildings along my walk towards the university. I was literally strolling along the pavement with the sun burning me and the wind blowing around me and I have to say that I have never felt more at peace then I did then. It was in that moment that I realised that one day i was going to make it. Exams are depressing as f***and know I sit here near the biggest exam of my life 3 years on and I know it’s going to be okay. That stroll I had literally made me drop most of my worries and changed my perspective of my future. I remember thinking “I am going to make it.”

Referring back to the start of this blog post where I asked a few rhetorical questions. They become relevant at this point of the post. You can do all of those things and have all of those if you work hard now. My parents bang on about this all the time and for the last 18 years I have finally realised what they now mean. I am closer to my goal than I have ever been, I have made it. Through bullying, pain, suicidal thoughts feeling like it’s not worth it, I AM HERE!!!!

That stroll changed my life!

I hope I have inspired you a little and I hope you have a lovely day. Until next time 🙂

Worried? Don’t be…

The racing thoughts. The burning questions. The what if’s? The heartache. It all feels like a downward spiral with a frightening landing.

Most humans are ingrained to think out each situation a million times over. Women more so than men. However, we can develop a level of anxiety, which just causes us to go into meltdown 😥…

Everytime this happens to you, where you find yourself worried out of your mind over something, maybe you have been asked or possibly need to do, but you don’t know how to tackle it.

Lay out your options.

On a blank piece of paper, write out all of your questions and then go back with your answers.

Let me give you an example. A new job. Worried if it’s the right thing for you?

Do you have to move away?

What would your family say?

Do you have to leave your parents/husband/wife/kids for long periods of time?

Will you fit in?

Will the job be a step up in your career?

Do you need a change of scenery?

Am I prepared enough?

Do I have enough knowledge for this job?

And so on…

By physically writing out and laying out your thought pattern, you not only are easily able to see clearly if its the right thing for you, but also it gives your poor brain a rest.

Once you have got your answers, rip that m*****f****r up. 😉

Hope this helped. Before you guys go, leave a comment down below on topics that you would like us to discuss and give our opinion on.

Stay blessed and until next time.